Here is a question that has been plaguing my mind for quite sometime now. What is more important: respect for your elders/ seniors or speaking up for everything that you think is right?
I have had this problem from time immemorial! Sometimes I know that I disagree with something that my mom/dad/older sibling/senior at work is telling me. But I give them the benefit of doubt because:
a) I believe that they have more experience than me, and I trust their judgement
b) there are times when I feel I may not be seeing things from their point of view
I don’t know if it is fair to say so, but of late, I’ve been seeing an increase in the number of irreverent kids: kids who question everything, who have strong opinions of their own, who do not always give elders the respect that is due to them.
I mean, I know that having questions is a good thing. And also, having an opinion on something means that they are actually thinking and that they have a fair knowledge of what’s happening in their field of work. Their attitude is what irks me.
Perhaps I am too old school. Or maybe too small-town?
When a fresh-out-of-college-just-joined-work kid has critical opinions about every work that happens, I have a problem because:
a) they have no clue what the client likes/dislikes
b) they do not have the experience to comment on what would work best
Perhaps that falls in the category of being smart and proactive?
I cringe every time I see a kid snuggling up to his/her boyfriend/girlfriend in front of one of their parents. I feel uncomfortable when a kid says, “Don’t piss me off!” when having a conversation with a friendly, 40 something elder in church. And I get outright irritated when I hear them say things like, “My dad’s such an ass! He didn’t give me the keys to his Wagon R.”
I mean, an ass? A word that you use to describe your dad? Really?
I suppose I am living in times where the thin line between confidence and over confidence, freedom of speech and slander, being friends and taking for granted, is slowly diminishing.
Or perhaps the society as I know it is slowly crumbling – giving way to a new kind of society where these things that I dislike are acceptable.
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